Posted by: Doug Location: Northern IL
I work in a school also. After being around a student for a few days I can tell how things are done at home. I am about 95% hitting the nail on the head. When a child acts up in school it is in many cases a cry for help or in some cases attention. Most behavior shown by students is a learned trait. Do you think schools make rules so they can GET your kid, no we had to place these rules in a hand book because of a SUE HAPPY Country. Every year we have to review the handbook and make changes because some of you parents out there are always looking for a loop hole. Support the school and the staff and I can bet that your student will finally see the light.

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Posted by: Anonymous Humiliation builds character. This is why America has grown so weak, everyone is scared to offend anyone, and must be politically correect all of the time.

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Posted by: anonymous Location: Dekalb
I am a teacher, and we use the same type of planners at my school. They are used in nearly every school and they are used by the student to write down homework, and they are used as a communication tool between parent and teachers. After reading this blog, these questions come to mind: Do you, Shonda, check your son's planner each night? Do you look for comments from the teachers? (They can't write in it if it isn't there!) Does your son have any consequences from you, his parent, when he does not bring his planner home for you to check? Is your child usually organized? Have you trained your child, as a parent should,to be responsible and to do his assignments? And lastly, was this the first time your son forgot his planner notebook? I would guess not. Maybe before you spend your time blogging, you should spend some more time parenting. It has been my experience that the parents who are always mad at the schools and the teachers haven't done a very good job parenting. Look at yourself.

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Posted by: Doug Location: Northern Il
In this day and age why are we always looking to blame someone else? It is never anyones fault. I see this daily, it is never anyone's fault. When you ask a student why he did something it is I DON'T KNOW or HE/SHE MADE ME DO IT. We as parents need to teach, the key word here is TEACH, we the Parents need to TEACH the students about respect. Because if you don't then the school must do the teaching. So when your student comes home and tells you about something that happened at school because the teacher or the school is out to get them, think about this did I create this problem or it truly the school.

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Posted by: wifr visitor Location: Rockford
Carl when I read the story it was not about who's tough and who can beat up who and obviously you were in school for the wrong reason.

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Posted by: chris Location: rockford
Cindy, I am sorry you feel that way. Maybe if you had received a quality education with caring, you would not have dropped out and your spelling would be better. My child's teachers have always been willing to talk about concerns I have about their classrooms. Give it a try!

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Posted by: Carl Location: S. Beloit
Lady--You need to tell your kid that bawling and calling mommy on the phone in middle school is lame. When I was in middle school, we beat kids up for that.

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Posted by: Doug Location: northern IL
Yes I work in a school and I constantly see the Students who never do or say anything smart or disrespectful to teachers. Give me a break. It has been my experience the students only give about half of what truly has happened to the parent. So when the parent comes to school to take care of the issue they are told the whole story which in 99% of the cases is not what the parent has been told by the student. So the parent gets angry and takes it out on the school, rather then supporting the school and punishing the student. There is a old saying we will believe about half of what the students tells us that has happened at home if you will do the same thing. There is always 2 sides to every story and since you were not there maybe you didn't get all the story.

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Posted by: Karen Location: Belvidere
I would like to know what? if any action was taken against the teacher because that was humiliation

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Posted by: visitor from wifr Location: Rockford
I see this all this all the time. But until these parents start standing up and speaking out they will continue to get away with these cruel punishments

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Posted by: Tricia Location: Rockford
Wow! You had a diffiult situation! I have a son at Flinn now, and I can honestly say that his teachers have been wonderful! Have you tried to talk to the teacher? They are very good about talking to parents. Sometimes I have found that the story I get from my son is not quite the whole story! My friends who have kids at Flinn all have good things to say about the teachers there. I think it is a good school.

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Posted by: A Flinn Parent Wow! You had a difficult situation! My child is a Flinn student right now, and I can honestly say the teachers he has had have been wonderful. They have been very willing to talk to me when I have called. Have you tried calling the teacher? They are very good about talking to parents. I have found that sometimes the story I get from my son is not quite complete! It is always good to hear the other side! Most of my friends have had really good experiences with their children at Flinn. I think it is a good school.

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Posted by: cindy Location: rockford
i agree shonda that was a horrible incident that happend.I believe you , these teachers say that they love to teach but in fact they should just say that they love to earn a teachers income. whatever happnd to caring about our children , witch in fact is the reason why they choose the teaching profession.People wonder why our children drop out of school and why their behavior towords school is the way it is.They (the children) in fact our the ones who really know how ruff a school life is, us as parents just have to get lucky as you and i have to find out the situations.

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